Our family is really busy. I'm sure you can say that about yours as well! I am in a constant state of evaluation of what things are working and what things aren't for our household. And I'm also always feeling like a failure when it comes to certain things – like a chore system! Why is it that I feel so obligated to have a chore system that will work for us? I understand that my kids need to learn hard work and that the family life will run smoother if we are not always stumbling over stuff all over the place. I understand that they need to learn skills for when they are independent and I also understand that I just cannot do it all!
Yet, I haven't found a system that really works for us to be doing a certain amount of chores everyday. Basically, my kids know that they are to thoroughly clean their rooms before any other activities on Saturday morning. I also know I can ask each kid during the week to empty the dishwasher and it will get done. They are supposed to put all their backpacks away after school and empty any garbage from their lunch bags (VERY important to do!)
So I have been trying something new. Every Monday after supper we don't have any friends in the house and we just all pitch in and clean. We get a lot done and we all work together. It is the only night we don't have something going on. We also have a "family meeting" to sit and figure out anything that needs to be talked about and we also do a longer devotional.
I have also offered Rachel money to keep up with the laundry. That only felt like failure for about 10 minutes. Now it's sweet victory!!!
I know we don't have daily lists of who should clean the bathrooms which night and who sets the table and who sweeps etc. But even though my kids aren't crazy busy with sports, they do have music lessons (and of course practice) and many activities related to our church and service.
I am in love with the idea of a daily system that works. And because of that, I have let myself become defeated and feeling guilty. But not anymore. I will continue to evaluate the situation and what will work the best for us. I don't want to cheat the kids of any experience in learning skills. But I also don't want them missing out on opportunities for ministry because I am stressing that they didn't check off "empty garbage can" and 5 other things off their list for that day.
So for now, we'll try this new system of Monday nights. When it doesn't work anymore, we will adapt. In the meantime, it's Monday and time to get some stuff done! :) Thanks for listening to my vent!
Ps. If I could read the copyright on the image, I would give credit and a link. If you know who created the chart, please let me know and I'd be happy to add that info!